TIMING IS EVERYTHING

This thing called timing….a.k.a when will it be my turn??

We live in a saturated society, a society that is full of things seemingly happening quickly for everybody except us, and we are constantly asking, “When will it be my turn?”

You see, life is full of times and seasons, and we must learn to understand and respect that. The fact that it is a person’s season now and not ours doesn’t mean we are forgotten by God, nor does it mean we won’t get there someday. We just trust, and let God…

The thing with timing we fail to understand is that simply because a person gets to a point faster than us, is not a full proof that they will eventually be greater than us in life (And truly, life isn’t a competition).

Appreciating the season and phase of life God has us in, is very pivotal to our general well-being and success in life. Learn to stop coveting another person’s season, or even your own next season. We feel like…when we get that dream job, we will be better, or when we get married, we will have more value or when we badge that degree, our worth will increase, and we are desperately going out of our way to get these things in a bid to get to that ‘destination’ of bliss. While these things are not in themselves bad things to desire, we need to realize that it might not just be the time for us to have them yet. We want all these things, but many times, we are not prepared to handle them. We don’t have the Character it takes to sustain them and we do not have the pre-requisite experience required to remain in that realm of elevation.

Perhaps we are in our waiting season, (and it doesn’t matter what we are waiting for exactly), but we need to learn to appreciate that season of life and pick all the lessons, experiences and virtues we can out of it, so that we can become emotionally, psychologically, physically, and spiritually ready for our next level.

I love the story of Joseph, a biblical character. He must have been about 17 years old when he caught the vision of his greatness. He was so ready to just get there as soon as possible (which is the normal way we will feel when we have big dreams), but (un)fortunately, life has its processes. From the pit, to Potiphar’s house to the prison…it would take the young lad another 13 years get to his promised land, and ascend that throne of greatness.

The same period of waiting was experienced by King David. Anointed King at 17, he went through the wilderness season of running from King Saul for some good 13 years before finally ascending Israel’s throne as King. Sometimes this truth about waiting on the right timing can be a hard nut to swallow, however the truth remains that if we don’t understand it now, we will continually encounter frustrations on our journey to destiny while trying to fast track everything.

Anywho, let us learn to encourage one another in our waiting seasons, while celebrating with those who are in their next level, because when the time is right, the Lord Himself, promises to make it happen for us. (Isaiah 60:22)

Selah!

Regina U

ajaregina33@gmail.com

THE JOURNEY TO WHOLENESS- HELEN SHARES HER BATTLES WITH REJECTION.

Hy Fam!

Been a while. It's so good to be back here.

Tonight, I have an inspiring story to share. It's the story of my friend Helen. She is the founder of 'The 7000movement', an initiative geared towards empowering the girl child and also author of the book 'Purple'. She openly shares her struggles with rejection, and how that empty feeling drove her to doing unimaginable things. Hopefully, this story blesses someone today. Enjoy!

“For 13 years of my life I had worn the garment of rejection, from seeds that were sowed in me as a young girl, stating that I had to be pretty or intelligent or rich to be accepted. I had believed that the kind of people who liked you or asked you out determines your worth. The more popular or sought after the person is, the more special you are to be worthy of their love.

So even after I left boarding school, I unconsciously jumped from relationship to relationship; I was hardly single for more than a month. The fact that someone showed interest meant I was special and sometimes, I would do the chasing to get the guy. It was like an ornament I wore, the finer the guy, the more special I believed people would see me. I was wounded, I was afraid to say “No”, many of the relationships I got into fell short of my expectations. They never really treated me right and I’ll be the one acting like the wife and mother giving money and cooking food to show I was good enough to be loved.

And so after the last break up, I broke down. I couldn’t take the pain anymore. I had literally lost myself in that relationship because of how much I had loved this particular guy. He however began to make me feel I wasn’t interesting enough, I began to feel like I wasn’t pretty or ambitious or good enough to keep him. I felt I was lucky to have him, so I tried to change to keep his attention. I struggled and he still left, saying he was sorry but the passion was no longer there.

I realized at this point that I needed the balm of Gilead. No relationship could make me whole; no guy could heal the void in me. Clothes, make up, and achievement couldn’t change anything. I was walking about wounded and bleeding acting like I didn’t care. For 2 weeks I was so depressed I cried out to the Lord to heal me, to show me what was wrong. When the lord finally opened my eyes, I saw that he wanted my heart because I had made the last guy a ‘god’ in my life.

I literally had to cast out the Spirit of rejection from my life. I realized it was a crippling, demonic spirit that was stealing my life and I had to rise up to fight back. God healed me, he took the pain and I began a journey to wholeness. The journey to being spirit-controlled instead of emotions-controlled, the journey to becoming purple; Royalty. I became a woman so controlled by the principles of the kingdom that I began to amaze myself. I realized that to whom we yield ourselves, we become slaves and I decided I would no longer be a slave to my emotions. Emotions are indeed overrated.” 

You can find her book 'Purple' for free on okadabooks, or simply send her a mail @eze.chineye.h@gmail.com

 PPS: My first book is set to be released before this week runs out! i'm so excited to finally be able to share my story with the world- how i went from being the girl locked up in a shell to the wonder girl Jesus is making out of me. Kindly watch this space for more info about it. Have a productive week!

Regina U.

ajaregina33@gmail.com

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LOVING MYSELF AGAINST ALL ODDS - JENNIFER SHARES HER STRUGGLE WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM

Hy Fam!

I've been MIA(missing-in-action) for a while and i deeply apologize for that, its been due to one issue and another, but i missed you guys yoo!

Today's post is simply aimed at encouraging someone somewhere who doesn't feel good enough. My friend Jennifer, personally asked to share her own story of battling with low self-esteem issues, hoping that it can cause us to see how truly special and beautiful we all are, inspite of our imperfections. Enjoy!

"My name is Jennifer Osuji. Growing up I never had it rough, everything was fine for me. Had the best of education, wore good clothes, never lacked food for once, all to say is that we were very comfortable and my dad made sure we all had the best. But the world did not know that I was dealing with a demon that was far greater than myself.

Growing up, I felt everyone was beautiful asides me. I mean, why was I the only short one, the only small one, the one that never won an award, the one that always struggled through her education. Nothing felt right in my life as I began to see myself as worthless, not important and an NFA (No future ambition). Everyone did well except me.

Life never felt so terrible. During secondary school, I felt I could not get along with anyone because I was not a bright student in school. I became socially awkward, I became a people pleaser; I buy people's love by displeasing myself to please them. I began to seek people’s confirmation for my own happiness; when I did not get what I wanted, I became sad.

I was brought up in a very strong Christian and I prayed to God everyday but I was still empty. I got admission into the university and I felt things would be better when I got into school but it got worse. I found solace in God and His word but I still felt empty; hence I became depressed. It was then I had different thoughts about taking my own life. Although no one could tell what I was going through because they felt I lived a very perfect life because I was not lacking anything; I constantly wore a smile but I was dying inside. I wanted the feeling to go away but I never talked to God about it, I was never intentional about it.

October 2015 was the beginning of something different in my life. I decided to further my education, so I decided to go for my Masters in Business Administration (Business Management). God used different people in my life to make me better and the major person he used was Ifunanya Anoruo. She made me see my usefulness, she made me understand how important I was to God, she made me see the beauty in trusting and believing in my own self. It was then I realized there was more to my life. I began listening to positive declarations, began speaking positivity into my life and I constantly made conscious effort to love myself every day.

Just because a child is different doesn’t make them less of a person. The differences in people is what makes them unique. I am living my purpose and I am making conscious effort to get better and seek God’s approval about who I am."

SIDE NOTE: Hey there! You are good enough. Just the way you are! 

Regina U

ajaregina33@gmail.com